Skip to main content

4 common long-distance relationship problems and tips to avoid them

Image used with permission by copyright holder

If you and your partner can survive a long-distance relationship, your relationship can probably outlast just about anything.

According to a 2018 survey, more than 40 percent of long-distance relationships don’t last in the long run.

That’s a sobering number, but it’s not insurmountable. On the flip side, it also means that more than 50% of these relationships do indeed stand the test of time. So maybe it isn’t so bad after all.

What distinguishes the relationships that make it from those that don’t? As with most things, there’s no single answer. But you can anticipate problems and address or even prevent them with a little bit of foresight and understanding.

With that in mind, here are four common problems found in long-distance relationships, and how to avoid them.

Lack of intimacy

This is the clearest and highest hurdle for long-distance relationships. Intimacy is not only physical but emotional, making it an indispensable component of any romance.

Luckily for long-term relationships, physical intimacy can be achieved, even when you’re not face-to-face. Even if frequent visits are not in the cards for you and your partner, intimacy is still possible without sex.

No matter how you define intimacy, the key is communication. More on that below.

And as for sex, with modern technology being what it is, long-distance sexual interaction is more possible today than it’s ever been. Use your imagination, talk to your partner, and get creative!

Image used with permission by copyright holder


Where intimacy is lacking, jealousy is sure to follow close behind. Jealousy presents enormous challenges in any relationship, and over long distances, it can be a deal-breaker.

When many miles lie between partners, it’s hard to stay in the loop with your significant other’s activities. The worst fear is that of the unknown,which can stoke the fires of jealousy. So, even when suspicion is completely unfounded, it does make logical sense that jealousy would be only too happy to fill in for, you know, actual information.

Jealousy can be controlled. If you or your partner is feeling jealous, you can help yourself by asking these questions:

  • What is triggering my jealousy?
  • Is jealousy interfering with my relationship?
  • Has jealousy been a problem in any of my previous relationships?
  • Do I trust my partner, or is there reason to have doubts?

Communicating too much

Communication is the linchpin of a long-distance relationship together. But like an overwatered plant, it is possible to have too much of a good thing.

It’s easy to communicate more frequently than you’ve intended, which can make your partner feel smothered. So if you feel like you may be communicating more than your partner, ask whether you’re sending too many messages. As with many other things in a relationship, you’ll have to find the happy medium, and that can mean communicating less frequently. This will be particularly difficult if you’re experiencing jealousy, but as previously noted that can be worked on as well.

Finally, remember to listen and receive as well as give. Good listening is an easy and effective way to build intimacy.

Image used with permission by copyright holder

Not communicating enough

There’s a flip side to the communication coin. If you’re more introverted or simply do not engage in much social interaction, you may run the risk of under-communicating.

Again, the goal is finding the Goldilocks communications solution — not too much and not too little. If you’ve been known to let messages go unreturned, or if you are simply not available for lengthy or meaningful exchanges, that may cause the relationship to wither on the proverbial vine.

Communication does come easier for some than others. Having trouble thinking of what to say? Keep the ice broken and develop that all-important intimacy with these topics or activities:

  • Likes and dislikes
  • Sharing a hobby
  • Reading or movie “club”
  • Play games together
  • Discuss things that are important to you
  • Seeking and sharing opinions on important and/or personal topics

The specifics of communication are up to you and your partner, but be ready to take an active role in the relationship.

As you may have noticed, all four of these challenges are interrelated. You can’t get intimacy without effective communication, and without effective communication, jealousy can rear its ugly head.

So, pay close attention to your long-distance relationship, and make sure you’re paying attention to your partner and what he or she needs from it. One thing is for certain with long-distance relationships: if you’re not both fully invested, it can’t go very far. If you and your partner are in it for the long haul, being aware of these potential stumbling blocks will help keep your relationship on track.

BlissMark provides information regarding health, wellness, and beauty. The information within this article is not intended to be medical advice. Before starting any diet or exercise routine, consult your physician. If you don’t have a primary care physician, the United States Health & Human Services department has a free online tool that can help you locate a clinic in your area. We are not medical professionals, have not verified or vetted any programs, and in no way intend our content to be anything more than informative and inspiring.

Editors' Recommendations

Scott Harris
Scott Harris is a freelance writer based near Washington, DC, with more than a decade of experience covering health…
Up your look with these 5 belt types
men belts

What is the first thing that you notice about a man? It is his attire, isn't it? You will be surprised to know that the first thing that many women notice about a man is his belt. These are among the most versatile fashion accessories. They adorn your outfits, hold up your pants and even accentuate your shoes. Still, most people wear belts only at the most. Now, you don't need to wear some exquisite, leather belt to prove your mettle. Just get up, pick your favorite belt, and wear it with a stylish outfit. Here are 5 essential belt types that you should consider wearing if you want to look your best.

Belt types are as unique as the men who wear them. While all belts give an air of fashion, we've learned that you can never go wrong with the classic belt and a timeless pair of dress shoes. Take care to choose a belt that complements your style and never be afraid to try something new. Tell us which one you liked the most?

Read more
Barn door must-haves for a proper upgrade
a wide shot of a large, full pantry

Barn doors are known for their vintage, stylish, and niche decoration. They add a whole new atmosphere to your home to make it look better than ever before. However, its old and vintage feel has its drawbacks. It could be too old-timey to be properly utilized at times and can use an upgrade to attain that much-needed modern touch.

You don’t have to have a boring old barn door anymore. Instead, check out the following items to ensure a smooth and efficient opening and closing process. Whether you’re looking to install some barn doors or upgrade, you can be sure we got you covered.

Read more
Bring these products when you travel
solo travel benefits flatlay of gear

When traveling, getting from Point A to Point B can be stressful if you’re not fully prepared. It’s important to plan ahead for unexpected issues that can arise when you're traveling. Chaotic baggage claims and crying children on red-eye flights are just some of the many issues that can arise. To minimize travel-related stress, you can keep some handy tools on hand when these common inconveniences pop up. There are many available products that you can use to help you better prepare for your next getaway. Here are some helpful products for making your travel experience more convenient:

Having some essential items with you as you travel can make your experience even more enjoyable. A quiet sound machine can minimize internal and external distractions such as noisy hotel guests so that you enjoy a calm, tranquil night’s rest. Additionally, a contactless thermometer can certainly come in handy should you or someone you know fall ill during your trip. Although traveling can be exciting, it can quickly create feelings of frustration and anxiety if you’re not prepared for some common setbacks. You can make the most out of your travel experience with the help of some of these products. By adding some of these items to your itinerary, you can make your next vacation, your best one yet.

Read more