How to keep conversations fresh in a long-distance relationship

Communication is everything — often literally — in a long-distance relationship. Effective communication is an asset in any relationship, but when you and your partner are separated by a substantial distance, this communication takes on added importance.

Maintaining thoughtful, honest, and direct communication can be much harder than it seems. As a result, many couples find themselves in a rut, repeating the same conversations and platitudes over texts or Zoom calls over and over. Unfortunately, weeks of conversations that are unsatisfying to both parties can undermine and potentially damage the relationship.

Whether you’re planning for the short term or the long haul, it’s important to keep things fresh and engaging so the relationship doesn’t start to feel like a chore. Take a look at these tips and tricks to keep your long-distance relationship running strong.
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Less can be more

This one can seem counterintuitive at first, but just like overwatering your favorite house plant, overcompensating can damage a relationship. Frequent communication can be fine for some couples, but for others, it might accidentally come off as needy or clingy.

Take a deep breath and acknowledge that your partner also needs some alone time or space to meet up with friends. They have their own life, and just because they are not currently speaking with you doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking about you. Additionally, curbing your communication just a little bit can make sure you have more to talk about when you do hop on the phone.

Another great method to maintain communication and establish boundaries is to set a schedule for communication. When you both buy into a timetable, it’s more likely you’ll both stick to it, which in turn makes healthy exchanges more likely.

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Establishing boundaries

Establishing some ground rules with your sweetheart is a simple way to stop miscommunications before they start. Some people want a good night call every evening, while others prefer more sporadic updates throughout the day. Learning how your partner likes to give and receive affirmation is the first step to communicating effectively when you’re miles apart.

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. While it’s not necessary to draft a 400-page legal document, coming to an understanding about your relationship status, communication needs, and plans to see each other next will set a good road map for you both moving forward. However, remember that life is messy so don’t get too frustrated if you have to deviate from the plan. Stay adaptable, listen, and work with your partner to find what works best for you.

Fun online activities

Tap into the magic of the internet and have a little fun. When you’re physically together, it’s likely that you engage in activities like watching movies, attending a game night, or trying a new hobby. You can recreate many of these activities virtually so that your interactions aren’t limited to FaceTime calls.

Teleparty is a browser extension that allows you to watch your favorites on Netflix, HBO, Hulu, and Disney+ in sync with someone. There is also a chat feature, so you can make snarky comments and jokes to each other, just as you would in person.

Internet games are practically made for long-distance relationships. Whether it’s Words With Friends, Jackbox games, or Pictionary, you can host a virtual game night to get those competitive juices flowing, all while spending quality time with your partner and your closest friends.

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Long-distance relationships are difficult, but they can and do work. Figuring out what works best for you is a negotiation and an ongoing process. Learning and changing on the fly is a critical tool in making any relationship work, and it’s particularly important when there are substantial miles between you. However, as long as you’re staying flexible and switching up the activities every so often, you can maintain a beautiful relationship whether they’re down the block or halfway across the world.

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